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ITS OKAY TO WANT TO BE HAPPY //

Let’s face it, it has become a societal norm to complain about basically everything in life in order to fit in. We complain about our jobs, our coworkers, our weight, our partners, our income, our lack of holidays…even how they got out latte wrong yet AGAIN at the coffee shop.

I used to think that I was supposed to be “unhappy” in order to fit in and be seemingly “happy”…and so I would try. I got the regular job, I spent all my money, I tried living pay cheque to pay cheque, racking up debt…but none of it made me happy. I tried to fit in by having the right clothes, going to all the cool events, doing all the things that would allow me to “fit in” with society….and yet all I was doing was complaining…with people. Is this what happiness is?

My partner Luke and I being silly at a wedding a few years ago

The fact is….

IT’S OKAY TO BE HAPPY!

IT’S OKAY TO BE HEALTHY!

IT’S OKAY TO BE IN LOVE WITH YOUR LIFE!!

There are a select few of us that are aware of this backwards culture we’ve created and it’s time we let the rest of society in on this little secret. YOU DON’T HAVE TO BE UNHAPPY TO FIT IN. You simply need to be yourself. And if being yourself means quitting your job and trying a new one for the 10th time, or bringing your healthy vegan homemade meals to the office party, or quitting drinking for 6 months even though you’re to “addicted”, or choosing to spend Friday nights at home in your pj’s with Netflix and your cat….THAT’S OKAY! If these things make you happy, then why are you putting other people’s acceptance and approval above your own happiness?

Why are you allowing yourself to be affected by their judgements…or sometimes not even judgements, simply your belief that they MAY silently be judging you. Have some faith in humanity, have some faith in your community and have some faith in yourself.

You are an amazing human being who has as much wisdom inside your body as the Dali Lama. You are cut from the same cloth as Mother Teresa. You are capable of healing the world in any and every way that you can imagine…IF you believe in yourself.

So please, stop making choices based on the approval of others.

Stop putting other people’s acceptance in front of your own health & happiness needs.

Stop allowing yourself to be a slave to our backwards societal norms.

I’ve done it, so can you!

But the secret is, I didn’t do it alone. I had a community of support. Not the societal community that I had when I first acknowledged this desire to change…it was the community I created for myself.

I hired a Health Coach to get my food, my mood and my mindset on track.

I enlisted my partner to be my support, to call me out when I was dipping back into my old ways and to stand by me as I tried new things.

I journaled, daily, exploring my thoughts and feelings around these shifts and changes. 

I invited in new friends, women that I already knew, but had never seen in this new, open, accepting and Holistic way. I began seeing them as my strength, my support and my mirrors. They showed me ways that I could heal and grow, and celebrated with me as I did.

And what do I have to show for it now?

I am HAPPY.
I am HEALTHY.
I have a stable, steady & healthy weight.
I exercise for the joy of it, not to agonize over how my body looks.
I eat foods that feel good in my body, and don’t fret over when I don’t.
I make time for people in my life that lift me up, and limit my time with those that bring me down.
I have quiet time, alone, just for me, and it feels GOOD!
I’ve become supported by my staff team – bringing me sushi for my birthday instead of a cake.
I spend more time outdoors and I feel no guilt around it.
I go to yoga multiple times a week and schedule it into my work days.
I spend money on myself for things that feed my soul; natural skin care, holistic health foods, life coaches, online mindset programs, gifts for every occasion, clothes that I feel sexy in
I see each challenge that comes my way as an opportunity to grow.
I read, I meditate, I laugh, I play, I eat, I sleep, I work, I create, I chat, I make love, I rest, I feel GOOD.

So, if you were to ask me how you could get yourself to this place of content and peace inside of you, I would reply with two steps:

  1. Hire someone to support you, hold you accountable, be your mirror and evoke your inner wisdom (click here for more on this)
  2. Practice being okay with wanting to be happy
In Health, Happiness & Pure Vitality,

3 Things I Learned From The Victoria Yoga Conference

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This past weekend my mind, my body & my heart were blown WIDE OPEN by the beauty & bliss that is the Victoria Yoga Conference. I attended 8 amazing workshops with 8 different leaders, teachers & gurus and fully engulfed myself in the goodness that they were offering to me.

I learned how to cultivate bliss through Tantric yoga movements, access my higher intuition through the fluid motion of dance, stand upside down while being 100% supported below by a complete stranger, activate the healing potential of my Mala Necklace through Japa Meditation and grind my own spices while chanting a beautiful healing mantra to nourish my body from the inside out.

Wow! It was absolutely amazing!

I did a live facebook video in my private community; Holistic, Happy & Healthy and did a complete ramble of goodness all about the conference…but for your reading sake, I thought I would narrow down my experience to 3 major takeaways.

#1 – Ayurvedic Medicine

I had the absolute privilege to be led through workshopswith both Gylnnis Osher and Melanie Madhuri Phillips, Ayurvedic Practitioners. Glynnis led us through an awakening Spice Shakti experience of grinding our own spices while chanting a healing mantra with each and every grind. There were 30 of us in the room and all of us took a turn grinding these seeds down into powder to then be combined and shared amongst the entire group. The focus of this practice was to bring out the natural healing nature of each of the seeds, while infusing them with intentional vibrations of love and healing; a practice of ancient Ayurvedic Medicine.

Then in my workshop with Melanie, we discussed the need for yoga teachers and all healers to honour their own body’s natural rhythm, eating, sleeping and living in a way that activates healing potential. We discussed the three doshas of Ayurvedic Medicine and how these natural characteristics play a strong role in creating a lifestyle that supports our individual needs.

Ayurvedic Medicine is a beautiful ancient healing system that was developed over 3000 years ago in India. It was used before today’s modern technology and science to heal patients from all ailments, including simple daily pains like digestive troubles, elimination inconsistencies, sleep disruption and unbalanced energy levels.

Since my program through Integrative Nutrition, I have been intrigued and curious about the healing nature of Ayurveda. It incorporates so many concepts of Holistic Health that I practice daily with myself and encourage for my coaching clients. And so for this reason, I am committing to pursuing Ayurveda further and better understanding how I can utilize this ancient healing system to support you and every one of my clients.

#2 Dance & Movement as Meditation

Meditation has always been something that I know I need more of. Hearing stories of my aunt and her meditation group taking a weekend to meditate together for the greater good of humanity…well, that’s damn inspiring! And knowing that through meditation I can access my own higher power, my intuition and speak from a place of purity and truth…well that’s pretty damn motivating as well! But the challenge I have always faced is the art of sitting still. I am a busy body; my mind has always been a highly functioning chaotic stream of new ideas & plans that is incredibly challenging to make shut up!

So when I attended Alice Bracegirdle’s Bellyfit Flow class at 8am on Sunday morning and she shared with us the essence of Bellyfit…I was activated! Yoga was created long ago for men to be flexible enough in their physical bodies to sit for extended periods of time in meditation to connect to their higher power. The operative word there being, Men. In the words of Alice, Bellyfit was created to honour and respect the natural rhythm and movement within a woman’s body, allowing for softness, fluidity, movement and DANCE. This is how a woman can naturally connect deeply to her own natural healing potential and access her higher power.

BAM – Deanna wants to meditate, Deanna needs to dance!

And I’ve known this for some time, but I’ve ignored the potency within the understanding. I often will sit in meditation with candles lit and music playing, only to begin circling on my hips, rolling my shoulders front and back and ultimately beginning a naturally-led seated dance. This is my body’s way of telling me that to get out of my head, I need to get into my body.

VOILA! The answer to my question of how to meditate more & access that higher power…make more space for fluid movement & dance.

#3 Physical Limitations

In 2.5 months I will turn 30 years old. I am ecstatic about this! I cannot WAIT to see what my 30’s hold for me. This path that I am on feels completely connected, real and honest with my purpose for being on this planet. I am finally…after years of searching, fulfilling my soul’s purpose. 

One thing that can come with turning another year older, is physical limitations that you are not accustomed to. The first day of the yoga conference I attended 5 workshops & classes…each 1.5 hours long! That’s 7.5 hours of intensive movement, education, learning, experience & openness. Wow! That’s a lot. And I’m the type who gives my ALL to each and every workshop I attend. So needless to say…I was bit exhausted after Day 1; physically, mentally & emotionally.

But what I learned in this experience was the art of yin; softness, quiet, receptivity, and calm. This has always been an element of my yoga practice that I gently ignore…as I often seek the challenge, the physical growth and the beautiful yoga burn.

So in this honouring of my soft & gentle side, I respected my body’s physical limitations and attended only three classes on Sunday. I took time to rest in the beautiful marketplace, had a cup of tea while sitting in the February sunshine, chatted with friends; new & old, and just took in all the goodness that was available outside of the scheduled workshops.

Just as there is beauty in the pause between your inhale & exhale, there is beauty in the gentle pauses of life. By taking time to listen to my body, I had intimate & heartfelt conversations that were not accessible in a 30+ person workshop. I honoured my physical limitations with great respect and continued to give my all to every workshop I attended.

In Health, Happiness & Pure Vitality,

 

Higher Vibrations – Awaken Your Spirituality

Niki & DeannaHigher Vibrations, a LIVE 4-part open conversation series, was birthed when fellow Holistic Health Coach Niki Wells and I realized that our ease of conversation around Holistic Health may be exactly what is needed to motivate YOU to make healthy changes today. We want you to have the tools and resources that you require to live your best life right here, right now. Our goal with these conversations is to inspire change in you, connect you to a Holistic Health network and expand your personal health awareness. We will be discussing all things health, wellness, spirituality and self-care in each open conversation.

Each session will be hosted LIVE and is accessible from anywhere in the world. We encourage you to listen in and join us through the chat box; let us know what questions you have and where your health has been lacking lately. Each session will have a general topic, but is always open to flow wherever it needs to go. Can’t make it live? Send us your questions ahead of time

Our first conversation was fabulous. We chatted about what Spirituality means to each of us, how it found us and what practical tools we use daily to stay connected. If you’re seeking some spiritual awareness and motivation, take some time today to relax and tune in. 

Register for our next conversation: Higher Vibrations: Fluidity, Intentional Movement & Exercise
Friday, Sept 23rd, 2016 at 9am PST/12pm EST